Sham Mariage

My closest friend Om called me yesterday. The ones who have been reading this blog all along would know that she is also my ex's wife!!! We became very close and started to confide in each other while I was in a relationship with Prince aka Mr Big. I understood when she talked about his mood swings, need to please others at the expense of those who loved him (whom he took for granted), and his constant need to be the center of attraction for which he could turn into quite a drama queen. Om has stuck through with him even after she realized after a few years into the marriage and with 2 kids to look after that the marriage was just a sham to hide Prince's homosexuality. At first I thought it was the quintessential unhappy Indian marriage where the couple stick it's because of the children but I realized that with Om that wasn't the case. Inspite of all the years of neglect and under appreciation she still in some strange way loves Prince.
I think she still thinks that someday he would appreciate all that she does for him and give her the respect she deserves. Om was my pillar of support when I broke up with Prince and that's when we came really close. I remember watching a movie where the character says that when two people are going through the same kind of circumstances they find solace in the each others company and form a relationship which may not necessarily be given a name tag. We are much more that friends something like soul partners and a lot of people who see us together and don't know that I am gay think that we are having an affair!!!
Om called yesterday and sounded really sad and said she felt trapped in the relationship that she is in. She wanted to move out and try to figure out things for herself before it's too late in the day to do so. The only thing she is worried about is her children but she feels that being in the relationship she has battered her soul so much that now she is not even able to provide the love she would want to for her children.
We have had these conversation before too and I feel such a phony trying to give her any answers. I was the one who at a point of time was his husband's gay lover. I also feel that I can never be subjective about the situation because of my hate for Prince and unconditional love for Om. It was just a very awkward and sad call that I didn't want to end before I could give any sort of support to Om.
All I could tell her in the end was to think things over and try to weigh the future with or without the children and carry it forward from there.Things are already an all time low and a little planning before taking any action would just make things easier to deal with. I wish there was something I could say and do for the person that means the most to me.



Photo Credit:Qtadica

p.s. Thanks for the comment on the last blog NSSG. I still can't view the blog on the computer so cannot reply to it conventionally.
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