Friends and relationships

Today was a hectic day. I had to get up early and drive to a Solan which is a town in the hills about 2 hours drive from where I live. The drive was a welcome change from the heat and the traffic of the city. The monsoons have finally arrived in this part of the country and on my way back it started to rain. The weather turned out pretty nice with the fog and the chill in the air. I had wanted to stay there a little longer but couldn't. The monsoons are my favourite time of the year. It's also the time I feel the most lonely. I have posted a pictures I took on my way back.

Read a post on the blog Single in the city about denial and make believe in relationships. The dilemma he talked about was that if a friends asks us for our opinion about their relationship should we be brutally honest in our opinion even when we know it isn't favourable?

I would say that when asked for your opinion give an honest one and step back. If your friend accepts it, good for him and if he doesn't with time he would surely see the truth. I was in a self destructive relationship and I know for sure that even if my friends would have told me the truth about it I wouldn't have paid any heed to their warning. I most probably would have started to distance myself from them (as it is I ignored everyone who mattered to me when in the relationship). Love is not only blind it is also deaf. Blind to the other person's faults and deaf to the warnings form our friends. But once the truth dawns upon us (which is usually too late) we realise our folly and if we are brave enough we apologize to our friends. In my case I didn't need to apologize. When I met my close friend battered with grief on the end of the relationship I was welcomed with open arms. My friends saw the guilt in my eyes and I heard the unspoken words of acceptance in their conversation. True friends should always be cherished.