The person behind the mask
Today's fortune: You are sociable and entertaining
I met Archie (the guy I referred to in the last post) for coffee today in the evening. I was a little apprehensive about the meeting before I went but I was pleasantly surprised. We shared a great comfort level and spoke about a lot of stuff. In fact I had such a great time that we ended up having dinner together and it was all rather nice. During the conversation Archie remarked that it would have been so great if we had met earlier and not so close to my date of leaving for Sydney. I agree with him it would have been great to have a friend like him to hang around with but Gos has a strange sense of humour!!
One thing that I realized after meeting Archie was that of late I have been wrong with forming an opinion about most people I have met. That was a part of the conversation as to how I am not a very good judge of people's character and how take a lot of people and things at face value. I think that is one thing I have to work upon. I have realized how certain decisions I have made have led me to situations where I have had to bear the not so pleasant consequences of the decisions. But I think they form a part of the learning curve and makes me the person I am. I have also realized how some people are just so open that you can read them like a book and while other are behind layers of masks that need to be removed one by one and then you may not necessarily like the person behind the mask.
It was interesting to see things from Archie's perspective. He is young and just experiencing that gay scene. He has a girlfriend because he wouldn't want his colleagues and peers to know about his sexual orientation but at the same time he knows beyond a shadow of doubt that he's gay. I found that a bit odd but then who I am to judge I have a few skeletons of my own inside my 'closet'!! In a conservative society like India it is difficult to be open about one's sexuality not for the fear of the repercussions it would have for you but the influence it could have on your family.
So I guess we all have to find own setup to be true to ourself and at the same time not be a cause of undue embarrassment to our family. I think that is the reason a lot of gay people in India who can afford to, move to foreign countries because that makes things much less complicated.
I met Archie (the guy I referred to in the last post) for coffee today in the evening. I was a little apprehensive about the meeting before I went but I was pleasantly surprised. We shared a great comfort level and spoke about a lot of stuff. In fact I had such a great time that we ended up having dinner together and it was all rather nice. During the conversation Archie remarked that it would have been so great if we had met earlier and not so close to my date of leaving for Sydney. I agree with him it would have been great to have a friend like him to hang around with but Gos has a strange sense of humour!!
One thing that I realized after meeting Archie was that of late I have been wrong with forming an opinion about most people I have met. That was a part of the conversation as to how I am not a very good judge of people's character and how take a lot of people and things at face value. I think that is one thing I have to work upon. I have realized how certain decisions I have made have led me to situations where I have had to bear the not so pleasant consequences of the decisions. But I think they form a part of the learning curve and makes me the person I am. I have also realized how some people are just so open that you can read them like a book and while other are behind layers of masks that need to be removed one by one and then you may not necessarily like the person behind the mask.
It was interesting to see things from Archie's perspective. He is young and just experiencing that gay scene. He has a girlfriend because he wouldn't want his colleagues and peers to know about his sexual orientation but at the same time he knows beyond a shadow of doubt that he's gay. I found that a bit odd but then who I am to judge I have a few skeletons of my own inside my 'closet'!! In a conservative society like India it is difficult to be open about one's sexuality not for the fear of the repercussions it would have for you but the influence it could have on your family.
So I guess we all have to find own setup to be true to ourself and at the same time not be a cause of undue embarrassment to our family. I think that is the reason a lot of gay people in India who can afford to, move to foreign countries because that makes things much less complicated.
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