Relationships

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The year seems to be coming to an end with it share of sad break ups and maybe new beginnings on the horizon. It is all very personal and I don't know if I should be writing about it but this blog has helped me get a lot of things out of my system and I hope it helps me with this too.

For all those among us who thought that gay relationships were complicated, case in point my recent mess with Jughead and Hobbes, straight ones come with their own share of complications far more grave in their nature and extent.

My very close friend O has been married to a gay guy for more than a decade now and has two kids from the marriage but things have taken a rather ugly turn in the recent past and finally she has decided that she cannot be in the marriage only for the sake of her children having a 'happy and normal' upbringing and that she needs to get out of it. She has gathered the courage and spoken to her parents about it and maybe separating soon. I feel happy for her and hope that she is able to start her life all over again from the scratch and that the divorce is not all that messy for her and especially for the kids. 

Another person who is very close to me is going through a rough phase in her marriage. Though she married the person she thought she 'loved' but it turned out that life was not 'happily ever after' and that her past kept haunting her in the shape of her ex who she still had a soft corner for. After being caught cheating on her husband once they both decided to forgive an forget and move on but things just never got on to a start. She once again found companionship in a work colleague and was confronted by her husband when he the colleague in a jealous fit started to email the husband about it all. To complicate things further she is pregnant but her husband now doubts if it is actually his child and wants it aborted. My heart goes out to her but then she finds her all alone in the situation where she would have to face the demons of the consequences of her decisions.

I have already written about how my best friend V had to let go off of his girlfriend of 4 years because his parents didn't approve of her and now the heartbroken lad is engaged to be married to another girl he doesn't even know. Well that is how marriages happen in India. They are usually arranged by parents and family members but it seems to have worked because India has a very low divorce rate which could also be due to lack of financial independence amongst Indian women until recently and also due to societal norms and bigotry. 

Well that is a lot of depressing stories to end the year or start the new year with but I hope that all of these stories have a happy ending. As someone once said, "Our endings are all the same; It's how you get there that makes the difference."